~ When Silence Is the Loudest ~

Helloooooooooooo.. :)

It has been quite a long time (haha.. yes, I do realize) and I'm actually having doubt if I should be blogging here right now since I should be doing revision instead as WACE Examination is real soon. But there must be a reason why I am here now staring at the laptop with my fingers dancing on the keyboard; giving myself chances one after another to express my thoughts and inner self.. because sometimes, you just need to give yourself some personal space to expand the horizons in you in a way that you will feel absolutely comfortable with. :)

We are the one who choose how to live every second, every day and every moment of our life. :)

Oh yes, in case you're wondering how was my campus life is like so far.. all I can say it was a great experience. Really.. but I'll keep the descriptions to the end when Ausmat ends. I have to admit that my Mock results weren't satisfying, but I certainly do not see the reason why I should feel embarrassed about it and worst, let it further pull down the confidence level in me. After all, there's no one to blame.. So, might as well just still see things from another view, accept it with a smile and take it as a stronger motivating factor. (Yun, go go Go!!) And most importantly, stay optimistic + happy. :)

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Humans are created to solve problems but sometimes not all problems can be solved by taking dominant actions. In certain situations, being recessive might appeared as the best solutions after all.

Many times we come across situations whereby we just don't know what to do, how to react and go completely blank except to witness the scenario and feel so helpless. The humanity and kind side of us shines from within when we try to make things better by saying comforting words paired with solutions. But the fact is, sometimes what people want is is not the solutions itself, they need a place they could trust to spill their hearts out. The solutions will emerge naturally after they learn how to accept the situation, solutions that transform, adjust and suits itself according to the person's internal being. Never offer solutions unless being asked to. Each of us is unique in our own different ways.. we have different experiences, needs and preferences no matter how similar we appeared to be like.

Now, let's define ego.

The belief that one is more important, clever and interesting etc. than other people.

How about an ego person?

An ego person is someone who appeared to have a very strong personality on the outside, difficult to deal with and the last person you ever want to mess with. Very unpredictable and very often makes you wonder how can a person ever be this complicated.

Agree? This is what most of us would interpret and very few of us would have the patience to endure, approach and see things from an ego person's side. However, many do not know that in fact, an ego person is actually someone who needs sincere care a lot because he is a very lonely person inside and hence, takes achievements as his closest friends and attentions as pleasure sources.

Just like the dry ice, it takes so much longer time compared to an ordinary ice to melt. But as long as you do not give up trying, you will be able to melt the coldness off any individual.. pieces by pieces.. part by part.. Nobody is born bad, we are all born with a good heart as clear as the mirror I would say. But as we grow up, it got clouded up with the obstacles we faced in life, turning things the way it's not supposed to be. Greed, Ignorance, Doubt, Selfinterest, Pride.. we aren't born with them. We picked them up along the way to protect ourselves. But is it really necessary?


So.. why do I sounds so sure of it?

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Oh.. I don't know, all I know my sister never gave up on me and although there were uncountable times when she thought she couldn't make it, yet, she still held on tightly onto my hands while I frantically 'shaked' hers off. She did not let not let go. She never did. She took about 15 years.. Yes, after 15 goods years to finally see and understand things from my view, actions and behaviour, she admitted. And it was that strong determination of her that melted the ego off me. The question is, how did she do it? By just listening and I chose to do the best changes for myself and my life.

Humans are good problem solver, but sometimes we do not want them to solve anything, we just want them to listen.

Thank you for letting me know that there are someone who cares and I am never alone. :)

This life changing experience is just one small example and I am very grateful to have her but how about those out there who are still living their life in isolation, shutting their hearts against anyone that crosses their path and having such misconception of "why do you want to care?"? I am not referring this to only the ego group of people, but also those who are deeply hurt by grief, loss or even have no one to turn to when they're at their lowest. Those who are the prisoners of great disappointment and chained with manacles of confidence lost in life. Those who escaped the grasp of natural disasters..and images of it haunt their mind every night, every moment they shut their eyes and weep silently in the dark.  We need to let them know that patches in life can still be sewn together with the needles of great love and thread of compassion by the hands of warmth and comfort.. And YOU can be apart of transforming this beautiful miracles into reality too. Get involved in any social or volunteering or charity activities whenever you can and you will witness how your life will never be the same ever again. For the better, of course.. Trust me, you will. :)

To all the angels out there who have been very supportive.. Thank you and..

Went to watch two movies for the last 2 weeks:

-Watched with siblings and cousins-

Super hilarious, pretty silly and I assure you that you'll feel as if you got 'bombed' over and over again here and there. Over all, it is a good movie to watch if you want a great laugh.. provided that you are someone who is fine with lame scenes as some people may find it very annoying. :)

-Watched with my dear friend, Li Jian :)-

Very exciting but honestly, I can't help laughing when I saw how much 'digital animation' touch is implied in this movie making most action scenes looked really 'fake'. Like seriously.. But, I have to say it is still a pretty enjoyable movie and yes, VERY touching too. :) *Shred tears*

I doubt if anyone of you have ever seen such drinking water bottle brand:

Oh yes, it clearly got the message through. I can't help but to laugh every time I want to take a sip. I've tried asking my mum and surprisingly she said she has absolutely no idea where does this bottle came from. Hmm?? :)

Below is extracted from "The World of Tzu Chi, July 2011, 22nd edition magazine:

"It is not very difficult to say the right thing at the right time but very difficult indeed to avoid saying the wrong thing at the wrong time. Wise man always think before they speak, and they never say anything on impulse." Sometimes we may unwittingly praise someone excessively or engage in insincere talk, thus leading us to commit one of the four types of harmful speech. There are also times when we inadvertently fall into the trap of "Not seeing our own faults, but keep talking about the faults of others." This is divisive-abusive speech. At times, in the heat of the moment, we pass sarcastic or derogatory remarks at upset people around us.. and even those we care without being aware.

The four types of harmful speech:
1) Divisive speech

    2) Abusive speech

       3) Slander/ Lies

           4) Gossip/ Flattery/ Idle chatter

The three main rule of speech:
1) If you know something which is harmful and false, don't say it.

    2) If you know something which is beneficial but false, don't say it.

         3) If you know something that is beneficial and true, then say it at the right time to the right person.

"Is it not prudent to leave nothing unsaid, but there are certain things best left unsaid."

                                                                        -Zen Master Fa-Yen, Sung Dynasty.

Let's reflect these to ourselves.. Are we actually saying the right thing? :)

To talk is better than to talk more; talking in a nice way is much better and to talk skillfully is the best.

To chatter is easy but to carry on a conversation effectively is an art,

It requires skills and wit.

Silence is golden when there is nothing to say,

And actually, well-timed silence is more eloquent than speech.

:) I suddenly feel like saying this.. To all my quiet friends out there, just want to let you know that I always believe that quiet people are those who are great listeners. So, thank you for being such a great friend in need. I really appreciate you guys.. although you can be pretty quiet at times.. It's okay, let me do the talking. *hehe* But one thing that I can say that if you ever need someone to talk to, I'll be more than glad to be that friend, like how you have always been there for me when I need a friend. :)

These are some snapshots taken during the 3 days Tzu Chi camp in Malacca. Enjoy. :)

Where as, these are taken during the recent Tzu Ching 15th Anniversary in SJK(C)Yuk Chai. :)

This may sounds childish but I've always wish to touch the rainbow when I was younger, in which I am never able to do.. Obviously. :)

~Thoughts of the Day 7~

When I was younger, my mum raised my siblings and I in such way that we must never fight back (不能动手动脚) during any conflicts although we may be right. At first I didn't get what was she trying to do back then as I was really still raw in the mind and it is indeed very hard to endure when we got blames and scoldings in things that we never do.. The feeling you get when your cousins were very mischievous, created a lot of troubles and yet all they need to do is to cry when you try to tell them off. We were all about the same age back then and it was indeed very torturing to get scoldings in front of them while watching them smiling behind mum's back. However, at the end of the day, she would sit my siblings and I on the floor and explained why would she react that way.. It was to build great tolerance within us, in terms of speech and behaviour. And I truly appreciate what she has been trying to do for us. :) Recently she read an article in the newspaper as shared it with me when I was helping her out in the kitchen. We should never judge a person although he may be wrong because first of all, we have no right to do that. Same goes to telling and insisting him what he should do because all of us are raised up in a different way and go through distinct past experiences. So, what might appeared to be an insult or mistakes to us might be perfectly normal to another person's norm, or culture beliefs. There are absolutely no wrong or right in certain issues.. So, we should all really avoid doing judgement on other people and start to accept them and their ways of doing things if it does not involves serious crimes. Nobody is perfect, so it is absolutely normal if people make small mistakes. 我们可以看摊时不可以说。最多都是能给义建但不能跟他说什么是一定要做还是不能做的事情因为每一个人有不同的想法。

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